Good afternoon everyone. In case you are not certain, I am Patty’s youngest daughter Tammy, one of “the twins” as mom would always refer to us.
Patronella Carol Mary Jakubowsi was born on February 5, 1945 at Lamont, Alberta to Peter and Katherine Jakubowski. Mom was predeceased by her parents; Peter and Kate; and her brother Teddy who passed away in 2009. Mom married our dad, Steve Lewyk in 1965 and thus began the incredibly busy life of raising four children who were born within three years of each other. First came Jason in 1965, then Jackie in 1966, and last but not least, Timmy and I in 1968. Mom always said when she was delivering us twins and had no idea there were two, “I didn’t want one more….what am I going to do with two?” Although their marriage didn’t work out, mom always cared for our dad and held a big spot in her heart for him. Mom raised us kids mostly in St. Michael with a brief three year period where we moved to Edmonton and lived in the west end. At that time it was the edge of the city so us kids built tree forts and picked Saskatoon’s for fun. We lived in a small townhouse in Edmonton and the place was always bustling with other children and neighbours. Although mom didn’t have a lot, she made sure that us kids had the best of what she could give. She was an amazing cake decorator and for each and every birthday we had amazing cakes that were perfectly done. And if we were real lucky she would even put nickels, dimes and quarters inside the cake. And that was no easy feat at all because three of us kids have birthday’s in September within five days of one another. It wasn’t much but she made us feel rich with her love and efforts.
In approximately 1979 we moved back to St. Michael where we stayed with our Grandparents until our mobile home was ready to move into. It was brand new and I’ll never forget how excited we were to move in. I guess this would be the place where we would say, “Mom raised us.” And once again the place was a constant whirl wind of other kids and visitors. As I raised my own boys and had moved back to St. Michael for 7 years, my mom and I got even closer. The one thing that everybody knew about her was that she loved and cherished each and every one of her grandchildren. We gave her eight; Brandy, Kaythen, Kwynton, Katie, Shaelene, Jesse, Jolene and James. If you ever ran into Mom, she would always talk about her grandchildren and no matter what she was always proud of each and every one of them for all of their talents and accomplishments no matter how big or small. And even if my boys were being bad she would say, “boys will be boys!” Forgiving them for any wrong doings they may have done. Some days it made me crazy but she would just laugh and walk away!
Mom loved gardening, especially when it came to flowers. We moved her into Turner Lodge in Fort Saskatchewan in 2014 and she would spend hours outside in their flower beds, weeding, deadheading, pruning, etc. She was also very talented at flower arranging and crafts. She could draw, play instruments, sing, yodel, dance and loved to have fun and make people laugh wherever she went. I guess that’s where I get my sense of humor from. In this new age of technology and electronics, us kids tried to get her into things like lap tops and cell phones. I guess mom was always a face to face kind of person because she never did quite get the hang of these things. Timmy would buy her a cell phone and then she’d be out shopping with me somewhere and I’d hear something ringing and ringing and ask mom what it was? She would look at me oddly and say, “I have no idea!” And then I would put my ear near her purse and find the cell phone that was ringing. No matter what style, color or size we got for her she never did use them. But if you drove by the Lodge in Fort Saskatchewan you could usually find mom out front. Weather it was doing her crossword puzzles and having a smoke or just putzing in the flower beds….she loved being outdoors.
The day before mom passed away I went to visit her after work in the hospital. Her hair was falling out in clumps from the chemo so she had me bring my clippers and shave her right down to the wood. While I was doing this we had fun and laughed a lot. First I shaved half her head and would take a picture with my cell phone and show her. Then I would continue on with a Mohawk and show her the latest style. We laughed and had fun throughout the entire process. And then as I helped her take a shower she soaked me up to the knees with the shower head and we laughed about her bad aim too. It was never a dull moment when we were together.
If any of you knew my mom and I, and anything about our relationship, you knew that we could be all warm and fuzzy one minute and fighting the next. But that was “OUR” relationship. And if anything ever went wrong she would call me and I would drop everything and go. We NEVER stopped loving one another and we ALWAYS forgave. And if I have one thing that my mother would want me to relay to all of you it’s that you need to forgive and heal. Don’t carry around a black cloud over your head! Let the past go and try to look for a better future. My mom didn’t have much but she had a world full of love for everyone! The morning that mom passed away she looked at me and said, “if it’s my time to go, it’s my time to go!” I couldn’t hold back the tears as I held her hand and looked into her beautiful eyes. I told her I was so very sorry for any of the fights we ever had and she grabbed me in and pulled me to her cheek and said, “I forgive you!” And then she apologized back to me over and over while we just held one another. We said our “I love you’s” and later that day she went to be with her family up in heaven.
To end mom’s eulogy I have added in a few lines from George Carlin that I’m sure she would have loved:
Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.
Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.
Rest In Peace Mom