Celebration of my life-long friend, husband and lover

Femi (Vincent) was an astute Accountant, policy maker, lover, father, and my friend of 25years. Femi was a goal getter, pacesetter, an achiever, loved setting goals and surpassing his goals, lover of God, great worshipper, trusted God with all his life even to the point of death.

Femi meant the whole world to me, I met him 25 years ago in our small city in Nigeria, and he told me point blank the first day he met me that he was going to marry me. It was love at first sight. We started out as friends and later became lovers and eventually got married 19 years ago. Indeed it was 25 years of bliss, mutual respect, love, peace, harmony, loving you and living with you Femi had been awesome. You had acted to me as a father, friend, lover, husband, coach, encourager and my laughing partner, nobody can replace you in my heart. You are my heartbeat, my soul mate, my entire world.

When I’m quiet, Femi could read my mind and tell me my thought pattern. He knew me inside out. Femi was a very compassionate man especially to the downtrodden. He started giving out scholarships to students in his community even at the time that we are still struggling ourselves, He will always tell me “as many that you could liberate from poverty the better the world will be.” Even though he started in his own little way, as times went on this scholarships touched many lives.

Femi accomplished everything he had set his mind on, career wise and educationally. He started his career in the banking sector where he rose to the position of an Assistant General Manager. He also had a short stint with Shell Nigeria where he rose to managerial level. Afterwards, Femi migrated his family to Canada in 2006. Academically, he bagged first class in Accounting in 1994 from Obafemi Awolowo University, Ife, Nigeria, followed by a distinction in Master degree from University of Sterling, United Kingdom. He later proceeded to Harvard University, USA in 2008 and graduated in 2009 with an MPA degree. Immediately, after his MPA degree, he was offered an admission at University of Calgary, Canada for his PhD. He completed his PhD in record time (2013).

Femi usually told me that if he dies today, he will die a fulfilled man. Femi, indeed you died as a fulfilled man, there was nothing you put your mind in that you have not achieved. You have accomplished, you have seen and you have conquered, even death cannot hold you down. The greatest mistake death made was thinking he had won the battle. No, Femi death can’t even hold you down.

I love you my life, ife mi, Idunni mi, if there is marriage in life after, I will marry you over and over again. You are a rare gem, my guiding angel, my king. Femi you had made your mark and your name had been written in GOLD. Your children and I will carry on your legacy. Love you forevermore, my king, my hero, and my guiding angel. Until his death, he was a Director with Government of Alberta.

Vincent will be lovingly remembered by his wife, Esther as well as three sons: Emmanuel, Daniel, and Victor and many friends and family.

A Funeral Service will be held at 1:00 pm on Friday, February 24, 2017 at Ellerslie Road Baptist Church, 10603 Ellerslie Road, Edmonton with Interment to follow at Rosehill Cemetery, 1605 141 Street, Edmonton.

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10603 Ellerslie Rd SW, Edmonton, AB T6W 1A1

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Its three years since u departed, I am still in shock. I met Femi and his wife at Stirling, they both inspired and encouraged me. Sun re

Nicholas Esho

Angels don’t die, they only transform. You’re alive in my heart & I will continue to cherish the sweet memories albeit short time we spent together as family friends. I will continue to remember you not because you died but lived to make an indelible marks in your generation. I know you’re there in the company of the saints, please watch over Esther & your lovely boyz. We promised to catch up in the summer but I don’t know why you left without giving me the opportunity to say goodbye. So long Femi.

Olalere Iyabo

Sir, you lived a life of influence. You impacted my life in no small measure, making me to have a certificate in life. May God uphold the family you left behind. R. I. P

Kola Adebayo

Dr Tolani it’s hard to believe you’ve gone at such a young age but who are we to question God. I’m happy you live a fulfilled life and you know God. I pray God bless and protect the young family you left behind. Adieu my good friend of over 28 years.

Kayode Mustapha

Olufemi, what can I say how do I feel?…..gutted, sad weary, teary and completely lost…… I met my dearest friend and brother in IFE….(OAU) Angola Hall in 1989…..committed, mature responsible and a kind word to everyone around…..For the period we spent together in our Year 1 …I lived in the fear of disappointing Olufemi…..and tried as much as possible to emulate his squeaky clean responsible life style……We continued our friendship over the last 28 years…..I can only remember highs…..no lows…..noo not you Olufemi…..I remember your wedding day at OSU Ekiti to Yetunde my dearest sister……. My going back to bring back your car that was involved in an accident on that day back to Lagos……coming for advice over and over again to your house in Ketu and ending up always eating Pounded Yam………..Ha!! Oh… death where is thy sting!!!…….our discussion on emigrating….. Your visiting me and my Family in London on your way to Sterling University…… My pleas trying to persuade you to stay back at Shell…..my frequent visits to Ekiti when you became DG PPP and you to mine in Lagos. Uncountable Skype calls between our families Canada and London………. Your total love and comittment to Yetunde…..who we fondly call Iya Afin Tolani……. This is a loss I cannot get over!! The only consolation is the fact that you lived a good life……..short….. but fruitful, dedicated to the Almighty, your family, friends and humanity……..I am honoured, feel privileged to have known you….Olufemi…… such a wonderful compassionate soul…… and proud to be your friend…….. Good night my dearest friend and brother for sure we will meet again on resurrection day……….Kayode Mustapha (Musty)……or as you often say…..Obote!!

John Dike

What a tribute Esther! I never met you or Femi. Just saw a facebook update of your brother in-law Olayinka who was my classmate at Aba. I was terrified to ask if Femi was his brother that had migrated to Canada. I instead decided to google Femi’s and behold my fears was confirmed. I stop over to see Olayinka in London on my way to Nigeria in 2012. He mentioned his brother in Canada and we were supposed to get to know each other. We never got to that and now he is gone. I wish I knew in time, I could have made to the funeral. MAY ACCEPT HIS SOUL IN PARADISE AND GRANT THE FAMILY THE FORTITUDE TO BEAR THE LOSS.
John Dike
Montreal, Canada

Olamde Idowu

Olufemi Tolani…I can’t just believe you now far away from us. Adieu Dr Femi till meet again .Rest in peace.

osalusi vincent moronkeji

may ur soul rest in perfect peace. I didn’t have the opportunity of meeting you b4 you departed but your good wrk speaks a lot abt u.

Stella Okyere

I am saddened by the loss of our colleague Vincent who has left us all too soon. Vincent was kind, positive, upbeat and also a great professional. He had an infectious smile. He always took the time to show he cares. May his good memories comfort the family during this difficult time. Rest in peace my friend.

Ibukun Aruleba

At your burial to say goodbye. Your life is testimony of fulfilled life despite the fact that your Creator called you home early.

You sacrificially sowed into the lives of many. You are remembered for the seed of kindness, generosity and unyielding belief in liberating less privileged from poverty.

You are one in a million, rest in the bosom of your Lord.

Krista Berezowski

Vincent was a colleague at Alberta Infrastructure, and in the short time I knew him, I admired his courtesy, professionalism, and expertise. My deepest sympathy to his family and friends. He will be missed.

MAKINDE Samuel & Anthonett

Hmmm, the news of your demise is shocking to our family. We take solace in the fact that God, our creator knows the best. The fellowship we shared together, your brilliant counsels coupled with your gentle countenance and courage in tackling issues will be greatly missed. Our prayer is that the Holy Spirit will always stand by your dear wife and the children. Goodnight!

Johnson Adegbite

Still unbelievable that your death came suddenly. Gods knows the best. But as mortal body one is extremely confused about the brevity of life. May the holy spirit comfort your wife and your children.
RIP Dr Femi Tolani.

Banji Olatundun

Good night Femi! You ran a good race and was victorious. You were humble and very generous. Yeah, you will remain fresh in my mind for ever. Adieu, Ore mi ataata.


Rest in peace Dr. Vincent Demi Tolani. May the Lord uphold the family you left behind. Amen

Toyin Akinyede

Femi since I knew you in the mid 1990’s you have always separated yourself from the crowd in a positive exemplary manner. I pray that the Good Lord uphold the family of Dr. Femi Tolani, make all that Femi left behind greater and more beautiful to the Glory of Jesus Christ IJN. Rest in Peace Femi.

Adeniyi Oke

On November 24, 1963 at the funeral of John F. Kennedy, Dr. Patrick Moynihan, a former US Senator and Cabinet Labour Secretary stated “I don’t think there’s any point in being Irish if you don’t know that the world is going to break your heart eventually. I guess that we thought we had a little more time.” These words remind us of the reality of living in this world that one day the world is going to break our heart eventually. I thought Tolani should be given a little more time by His marker when I heard the sad news from a friend. I never met Tolani but hearing about him as classmate at the University of Ife and bright star from my native Country, Nigeria saddened my heart. I pray that his spouse and children find comfort at this difficult moment in the Holy Bible words: And I heard a voice from heaven saying, “Write this down: Blessed are those who die in the Lord from now on. Yes, says the Spirit, they are blessed indeed, for they will rest from their hard work; for their good deeds follow them!” – Revelation 14:13

Damola and Funto Orimalade

It’s with great sadness that we recieved the news of your journey to glory.

For the short time we knew you, we saw God’s glory upon your life and we experienced your character of gentleness, kindness and love.

We truly bless the Lord God Almighty for his faithfulness and mercies.

You will truly be missed but we know that His faithfulness endures forever.

The generation of a righteous man is blessed. Your offspring , your wife and all that you left behind, remain blessed in the land of the living.

Jerry Destounis

My deepest condolences for the loss of Vincent. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Neil McFarlane

In the time I knew Vincent and worked with him at Alberta Infrastructure, I came to know his intelligent and professional manner, along with his very friendly demeanor. You will be missed, Vincent. God Bless.

The Cole Family

We are very sorry for your loss. Please know that your friends and family are there for you during this difficult time (Proverbs 17:17). For additional comfort please try and throw your anxieties on God because He does care for you (1 Peter 5:7). May your loving memories bring you a smile in the days ahead. Your family has our sincerest condolences

Ogunmadewa Folorunso Dickson

Adieu Prof Olufemi Tolani, my mate, friend and brother, you came, you saw and you conquered.
Rest in perfect peace at the bossom of your creator.
We your mates and friends from Accounting Dept OAU Ile Ife will miss you so much.
May the good Lord uphold your wife Esther and your children. Goodnight my dear brother.

Ronke Simplice

May his gentle soul rest in peace,God will grant his family fortitude to bear the loss, it’s well

Biodun Akinwobi

Indeed, life is not how long but how well. Femi, your staying in this world was short but memorable. Your positive impact on the life of others is unquantifiable. You came, saw and conquered. May Almighty God grant you eternal rest and stand firmly with the family and friends you left behind. Rest in Perfect Peace.

Uche Obeta

Femi was my my professional colleague, and we also worked together in Shell. I was shocked to learn about his passing.

Femi will be remembered for his brilliance, professionalism and his trademark smiles always.

May his gentle soul rest in peace in the Lord.

uche Oshai from Nigeria.

Quite touchy Esther, but like a queen u have conquered, he deposited inside of you before his demise the spirit of boldness, courage and a strong hope to move on in life, I like your spirit Esther, and therefore urge you to continue in that might and I strongly believe that the most high God will engrace u with all u need to be strong for your self and the children, be strong my dear and don’t disappoint your late king, u called him ur king , therefore honour him even in death, do not encourage pity patty from anyone for the Bible says that pity kills, it is hard, but the grace of God is sufficient for you, I encourage you to ride on in this might. May the soul of the departed rest in perfect peace. Adieu Mr Olufemi Tolani Vincent.

Modupe Farayola

Femi was fine and gentle colleague while he was in Shell. May your soul rest in peace. My thought and prayer are with the family.

Sir Remi Omotoso, MFR, KJW

I met Femi in 2010 when he was invited from Canada by the then Ekiti State , Nigeria, Governor, Dr Kayode Fayemi, to be the Director of the newly created PUBLIC PRIVATE PARTNERSHIP Board and myself as Chairman of a 5-member team. He worked for about a year and decided to go back to Canada.
Femi demonstrated an uncommon innovation, zeal, result-orientation and patriotism. Very scholarly man. A focally loyal family man and friendly to his contacts, distance not being a barrier.
Femi will be sorely missed. I pray that God will uphold his family and grant Esther and the 3 boys to bear this great loss.

Feyi Fajuyi

Peace to the hearts of his family.
God shall gather you with his great mercy.
It is well.

Ezenwa Echefu

It was such a brief sojourn but you made a great impact!

May God grant your family the grace to handle this loss.

We miss you!.

Teena Ogor Ogbugoh

An astute Banker and a fine gentleman who left his mark in the sands of time. You touched so many lives in your short but fruitful life. You were an amazing and outstanding boss to work with in Standard Trust Bank, soft spoken, intelligent and firm. May God Almighty forgive your sins, grant you eternal rest in the bosom of Jesus Christ and comfort your loved ones at this time of grief.

Uloma Ike

Very very sad to hear this news, still in shock !. Femi was not just a classmate, he was also a former colleague . I have so many memories for him at Boston and remember him most for his gentle nature and kind heart.
May his soul rest in peace and may God comfort his family.

Jeff Stewart

Dear Esther: I was saddened to learn of the loss of your husband, Vincent. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Emmanuel, Daniel, and Victor, and other members of your family during this very difficult time. My sincerest condolences. Jeff Stewart

Pastor Olu Mesele

You were cool and loving. Your passion for others will be missed greatly. Bro Feminine it is painful but heaven is gaining you. Good night

Nasir Ahmad El-Rufai

I am shocked to learn that Femi is gone. He was a great aburo, a cheerful classmate at the Harvard Kennedy School and a devoted friend. I am sad to witness his death at such a young age, and at a time when I am hoping he will return to Nigeria to contribute to our nation’s renaissance.

On behalf of my humble self, family and the government of Kaduna State of Nigeria, I join others in offering condolences to the Tolani family. May his gentle and cheerful soul rest in perfect peace, Amen.

Nasir El-Rufai
MPA 2008-9
Governor of Kaduna State

Douglas Scott

I remember when I first met Femi at Harvard… we stopped on the forum stairs said hello for the first time and then sat down and talked for at least 45 minutes. The intensity. The Passion. The Intelligence.

Later, I saw Femi in Calgary. It was there when I became awestruck by his intelligence and extraordinary capacity for work.

I agree with his wife’s lovely note. This is not the end for Femi – he will live on through his family, the scholarships he championed and the people he has touched throughout his life.

Goodby for now Femi,

Your friend, Doug Scott

Kola Oladimeji

Femi, We your colleagues in ICAN Canada District will greatly miss you as we love you but God loves you better and he knows why.

Continue to rest in the bossom of our Lord Jesus Christ, may you have peace and eternal life IJN

Rest In Peace Femi. Adieu!!!!

ICAN Canada District

Tolu @ Ronke ORIYOMI

Femi was such a cool guy and had all the zest for living and well prepared to make a difference to the world. He was extremely brilliant but God knows why. Adieu, Femi Tolani.

Oluwatoyin Ladokun

Please accept my condolences. The Holy Spirit will speak to you and comfort you my dear Sister.

Bisi Jagunna

Bros femi!!!!! Am not sure of what to write! Ke ye mi ooo. Mi ke o kohun korokan. Sis yetunde oya rere!
I pray for peace and strenght needed to carry on his legacies. He was too much an evidence of goodies as a brother , a husband , a friend , a selfless giver. Sweet are the memories of the righteous. You will forever be remembered and be in our hearts. Sleep on peacefully baba omo tooto oko rere

Funmilayo olajide and family

Is so hard to believe you are no more my lovely brother ,you had a great impact in my children’s life even when their dad was no more with Tolani foundation, we will never forget ur good works to the community you are indeed a rare gem , hero, very humble, respectful, great achiever, you are loving , caring, generous…i can’t say it all you really touched peoples life and we will forever be grateful to God for your good works. May almighty God grant you eternal rest and keep the family you left behind . Rest in peace


I studied with Femi at Harvard. God, please bless and comfort Esther and her sons at the loss of Femi. May your peace you left us comfort them.

Dr and Mrs Ademola Simon Akinteye

Femi is surely going to be missed by us. Femi live a life of love for his family and others. He was a responsible family head, a loving husband, a caring father and a God fearing man. We met Femi in 1998 when he and his family came to live in the same building that we were as young couples at No 9, Omotayo Disu Street, ikosi, Ketu, Lagos. We live together as family friends and with absolute peace and love. We have remained family friends ever since. Femi inspired others with passion and positive outlook. He showed love in abundance and was willing to expend himself on behalf of the downtrodden. We are totally pained that Femi passed on at the time he is mostly needed by his family and the nation. But we take solace in the Bible that he, Femi shall not see corruption but he has been transformed in a twinkling of an eye to be with the Lord Jesus. Rest on at the bossom of the Lord. We love you but Jesus loves you more. Rest on in peace. May the Lord Jesus be with your wife, Yetunde and your sons. Amen and Amen

Ade Peter Agbemuko

Dr Femi Vincent Tolani aka Bakaara,
Thank God for your life on earth, we loved you but God loves you more. Since you’ve been with the lord in glory. We pray that your soul rest in perfect peace and the glory the lord shine brighter on your Wife yetunde and the three awesome boys, strengthen, empower and blessed them as they will be carry on your lagacy ! Adieu my cousin brother and my Friend, it just too sad, but we celebrate your life on earth because we know “life is like a candle in the wind”. Rest well bro in Jesus Christ name.

Akintunde Akinlosotu

Oh death, where is thy sting? Oh grace, where thy victory? Egin Tolani, wo la ni o. You fought the good fight, you ran gloriously a good race, now rest on in the bosom of your Lord. Adieu my brother, till we meet to part no more.

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